It's hard to believe that I just typed "Evan week 3" in the title line of this blog but time has really been flying by that fast. We are just a few days away from his 3 week birthday and he is growing so much. He had another Dr. visit today and is tipping the scales at 9lbs and measuring a whopping 20.5 inches. I have found great solice in the fact that everyday when I come home he is there and needs me. My first born is going to 14 soon and lives with her mother and does not need me the way she used to. My step-daughter who is also 14 is in the same boat, she needs a ride to a friends house, she needs money for a pool dance but where these things come from are not a concern. My 7 year old step son gets his food together when he is hungry, changes his own clothes and has the imagination of a muppet baby so even he is starting to be on his own more. Evan on the other hand can't hold his head up on his own for longer than 30 seconds, he needs me. It's good to feel needed as a parent for more than money and transportation. I enjoy have the responsibility of ensuring this life that I have helped to create is taken care of. During the pregnancy I was worried that I would be unable to do the things I needed to, like change a diaper fast enough or be alone and have to warm a bottle, change a diaper and keep him from fraeking out but it's all second nature. The other night I woke up with him to feed him and I changed his diaper in the dark, didn't get peed on and put the diaper on the right way.
I generally do the feeding closer to the start of my morning to give myself a chance to spend time with him and to allow Shawna the opportunity to sleep uninterrupted and our team efforts have seemingly been beneficial for all of us. The first few nights we both got up and were doing things but we soon realized that this was not as necessary as it is for one of us to be catching up on our sleep. It is important for both parents to realize that this is a team effort and it is best to figure out and discuss what is the best way to handle everything, especially if the mother is breast feeding or pumping. Everyone is better at certain things like diaper changing or feeding or bathing and you shouldn't be afraid to tell your partner how you feel about it.